Why You Need To Have Sex After Childbirth


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After childbirth, there are a lot of things that are put into the skip mode and one of them is sex. A lot of  women try as much as possible to keep away from sex after child birth and their reason can be either mentally or physically especially considering what the woman must have gone through to give birth. That most women try as much as possible to keep away from sex doesn't mean they don't think about it, actually, as time goes on, the thought of having sex will cross their mind. 
According to Vanessa Marin, a Los Angeles based sex therapist, "most women are greatly concerned about the possibility of their vagina healing after childbirth." She advised women not to get scared about it, as it will heal in due time.    
Marin also gave out a list of questions new moms do ask about after birth sex:

When is it okay to have sex after childbirth?

According to a Stanford University assistant professor of obstetrics and gynecology, Jennifer Conti, "the vagina gets into the healing process immediately after childbirth." She also said that "a vagina can take in any form of expansion, but with time it will heal and there won't be a sign to tell what it had gone through during childbirth." This is why doctors will advise that you hold on for at least 6 weeks before having sex after childbirth.  


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What does it feel like to have sex after childbirth?

This is when the curiosity of being a virgin sets in. Though you are already a mom, but the thought of having sex for the first time after childbirth will surely open the floodgates of questions pouring into your mind most especially if you are a first time mom. Anyway, one thing is clear you are likely not going to enjoy your first postpartum sex. However, in due time, you will get back to enjoying sex with your partner, but it is not going to be magic. You have to build the atmosphere to what it used to be before pregnancy. This is because, your body needs time to get in the mood. 


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Can I get pregnant again?

Some husbands are very scared of getting their wives pregnant immediately after childbirth, but are more than okay with having sex immediately childbirth. While most women are determined to get over child bearing as soon as possible.  
Doctors will advise that you wait for 6 months before you can get pregnant again. This is because, getting pregnant before 6 months after childbirth has serious negative effects for your  "unborn" baby. According to  Mayo Clinic,  the negative effects are;  a great possibility of premature birth, low birth weight and congenital instability.
Meanwhile, some people are of the belief that breastfeeding has a role to play in reducing the possibility of getting pregnant, but that is not true. To get more information on how best to avoid getting pregnant for some time, approach your doctor.

 
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Will sex remain the same after childbirth?

Obviously no. There will be changes after childbirth. In this case, you are likely to get it better than it used to be. This is because, you now know what you really want when it comes to sex and your creativity has gone a step higher. While some women don't enjoy sex after childbirth. In this case, it is important that you speak with your partner about the solution to this problem, or you see your doctor in case the problem is medically inclined.    


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Is it possible to enhance my sex life after childbirth?

Yes you can enhance your sex life after childbirth, but that is not what you can do alone. You need to see your doctor for advise on what to do. In addition to that, you should also follow the instructions of your fitness trainer who understands you. This is because, workout sessions might be all you need to get the groove back on.

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  1. It's a great read for married couples. They face so much awkwardness regarding this issue. I hope this article will help them.

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  2. Yes Sayed. This article will surely be of help... Thank you

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  3. This is helpful, because I think all new mothers go through this phase. Good guidance for them. I am over this phase so I can understand.

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    1. Hello Kuntala, we are happy to know that you are over this phase and we believe that you are using for experience to help other new moms

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  4. Interesting article with some valuable information for married couples. Thanks for taking the time to put it together.

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    1. Thank you matt. Rizhealth is all about problem solution

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  5. Be careful. I got pregnant right after I had my middle son. But he's our sweetest surprise.

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    1. Hello Amber, it is good to know that you are happy. Rizhealth is all about being careful. Thank you

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  6. Interesting article for married couples. That is very interesting that you should mention the question of will i get pregnant again? There are so many Irish twins to answer that question. :)

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    1. Hello Joyous, yes there are many twins to that question. Thank you

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  7. A really useful and thought-provoking article for couples. In particular, I think having the male partner read this will help build greater understanding of matters from the female perspective.

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    1. Nicole, we believe this article is for all, but having the male partner read this, makes more sense. Thank you

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  8. very interesting. I also have the same questions you posted here. Although I am not yet a mom and not yet married, it's good to know so I will be prepared. :)

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    1. Thank you so much littlemisadvencha for getting prepared ahead of time. Rizhealth wishes you all the best

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  9. Kristine Nicole AlessandraApril 27, 2020 at 10:52 AM

    It is important that couples maintain their intimacy after childbirth. Speaking from experience, I was scared to have sex after I gave birth the first time. I had an episiotomy and I was afraid I would have to get stitched up again. Haha. Anyway, thanks so much for writing this article. This will be a big help especially for women who just had gone through the birth of their first child.

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    1. Thank you Kristine. It good that you shared your personal experience so that others can learn from it. We at rizhealth are grateful for sharing your experience.

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  10. it's def important to get back into the swing of things after the baby is born. it can take time but eventually it happens.

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  11. This article makes me curious as to who's standpoint this is coming from. In the case of sex after childbirth, I really think it should be up to the mother. She should not feel pressured if she is not ready.

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  12. This is an important article for expectant and new moms so they know what to expect. It typically taks time. Thanks for sharing!

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  13. I'm not a mother right now, but I do think intimacy should still occur after you start to have a family!

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  14. I currently don't have any children, but. I will share this article with a girlfriend of mine who is pregnant. She will find this information very useful!

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  15. Sex is definitely a good and healthough thing for spouses to engage in before and after childbirth. Great tips for anyone who needs them.

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